Handling Problems

There is a Buddhist fable about a man’s son who captured a strong and beautiful horse.  The people in the village were very jealous of his great fortune and told him how lucky he was.  He replied, “we shall see.”  Soon after the horse threw his son and the young man broke his leg.  The people in the village told him how cursed he was and he patiently replied again, “we shall see.”  After the son broke his leg soldiers came and took all the able bodied young men but the man’s son was spared.  The people in the village reminded him of his good fortune.  His reply, “we shall see.”

The fable shows how quickly our fortunes can change.  As we all travel through life we all encounter many joys and many problems.  This was brought into high relief for me this week while I watched my son compete in the Michigan Open golf tournament.  And although the game of golf is really only a metaphor for real life problems it does demonstrate that for every up there is a down.  And it’s not so much counting on getting more ups but seeing the downs as opportunities.   My son had one spectacular round of 66 and the next day bombed with a 79.  He said the perfect round had not prepared him for the difficulties of the following day. 

The Dali Lama once said, “The universe is in a constant state of becoming an ongoing miraculous creation.  Every day we awaken to that miracle with gratitude, respect, and compassion for all who share the gift of being.”   When we learn to cultivate acceptance rather than anger or frustration for those times when things aren’t going well we can begin to see our problems in different way.  We can begin to see them as just another part of our creation that natural ebb and flow in this world of duality. 

Problems challenge us to get out of things, to fix them.  But sometimes we need to examine the idea of fixing, especially when it relates to fixing others.  We need to question our concepts about how we want things to be and what we want people to become.

If we can let go of some of our thinking we will see that some problems can be solved, some cannot and some are best left alone.   Watching my son struggle through this tournament I know that the best we can ever do is to support the people we love.  Each one of us faces our own individual journey through life alone but we can travel together bound by our loving support.

As teachers everywhere end their school year my wish is they embrace this journey and give each other this loving support.